Things to look forward to
Hi all I’ve noticed a few of you love reading as I do and unfortunately cannot do it very much or at all .. this is one thing I miss so much and I have so much writing in me too,I would love to get out .....
I had a book going for a couple of years and I was determined to finish it!
While I did over do it and I paid for it ... I kinda read for 10 mins and rested/slept for 10 or so mins and then went back to it.
I just did it for to long.
So now what I am trying to do, so I don’t still have this book going in 2 or 3 or more years .... is to only read just for 10 mins on a good day and then put it away ....I’m hoping this will help me and others be still able to read without to much of a crash.
Although @Jop I know you said you cannot do any reading at all.... would on a “good” day just reading for 5 or 10 mins be better than going to long?
The trick for all of us is to be disciplined enough to stop!
Obviously if you are not up to it at all, hopefully with time, you will be able to do some light reading on a good day.
One other thing I love to do is drift off to a guided mediation and I usually fall asleep and that’s nice too.
The honest guys have some nice ones out there, that are different and nice little journeys if anyone wants to try those.
Hopefully whoever is reading this, has been able to achieve something nice today
Hi @Tess Some things are worth waiting for: it makes for a sweeter ending. Hope you're enjoying the read. Love books as well as mentioned in another post … just like the printing, the artwork illustrations etc... and yes I have been guilty of cutting out the images and illustrations I like, pages etc... I do read books ; usually non-fiction
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What's something you've learned?
Ah, I didn’t see this here. Just made a thread for this specific question. I guess because with large blocks of text, I have a tendency to skim them if I can’t focus . No harm in having this question repeated I guess, and in having somewhere else that it could perhaps be a bit more concise and easier to read.
What's something you’re looking forward to?
I guess at one point I decided to stop setting specific goals, and I had to stop being so concrete in the things I was looking forward to. Because so, so many times I had to cancel or I failed to achieve something that at the time, I thought was a very real achievable goal. And the damage that did wasn’t worth it. It’s hard, to balance hope with the potential for disappointment. My ASD and the desire for structure is a very real challenge, when I can’t maintain this needed structure.
All the same, I am looking forward to getting my new loom on Saturday. (I was supposed to get it tomorrow, but that had to be cancelled because of the weather - typical) I’m also looking forward to good snuggle with my rats before I go to sleep. Or attempt to.
... with large blocks of text, I have a tendency to skim them if I can’t focus .
Yep, you and me both.
Here is a wide broadcast apology to all past, present and future times I haven't read a long post well, and might only respond to part of it, missing important bits, etc. etc.
I guess at one point I decided to stop setting specific goals, and I had to stop being so concrete in the things I was looking forward to. Because so, so many times I had to cancel or I failed to achieve something that at the time, I thought was a very real achievable goal. And the damage that did wasn’t worth it. It’s hard, to balance hope with the potential for disappointment.
I think having non-tangible goals can work really well. e.g. looking forward to sometime in the next week feeling relief (if that is achievable, timetly, etc. - all the SMART goal thingys). And then if it happens, acknowledging it. And if it doesn't, acknowledging that you had a shot at it - and there is something good in the pursuit.
Very humble but significant goals are great too, even if they're tangible. e.g. your snuggling with rats. Nice!
I'm reminded of the line: if you want a friend in politics, get a dog.
A nicer version - if you've got CFS+ASD, one good way to get some connection is with a pet (if having a pet is doable).
A nice reflection from Leunig:
@PaulB Love the Leunig . Exactly what I needed to see today. Thankyou for the blissful moment
@Daffy_Dave I still look forward to receiving an actual letter in the mail. Sadly this is slowly disappearing. There is nothing better than a personal letter that you open with your hands and read. I manage to write letters to my granddaughter. I make them fun with lots of pictures and even little stories. I sneak in some advice . She's nearly 2 and hopefully she will read them back to me in a few years and write back. I find that writing is an easy task to get going on. It doesn't have to be done fast.
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@crashdummy ooooh maybe we could start a penpal club for people who like sending/receiving physical letters?
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